How do you know if your EQ is high or low?"

How do you know if your EQ is high or low?"

Today, it is accepted that EQ is more important for success than IQ. Although some artists, athletes scholars are talented enough to be called “Geniuses” in their respective fields,  when their EQ is low, they are not as successful as they expected. You  have seen that success doesn't last long. So it is important to have a high EQ.

You can check whether you have a high EQ or low with the following facts

1. Intrapersonal skills

Intrapersonal skill is the ability to control  emotions. Those who say, "I can't control myself when I'm angry, and I have to respond if someone insults me" have a weakness in this Intrapersonal skill. Since they are only human beings, there are various emotions ; getting angry, being sad, heart broken,  having too much fun ,depression  ect ,. When these things happen, you need to be aware of yourself and control these emotions in time. When you can't control your emotions , you feel uncomfortable at work and relationships are also be damaged.

2. Interpersonal skills

Interpersonal skill is the ability to communicate with others. There are many things to consider here.  let's say, all the employees of an office are corrupt and taking bribes Only one of  them does not do such things at all, so everyone hates him. Others don't make him as friends. Can you say that this is” low EQ”?

In addition, Someone have many friends, being able to give or being able to feed ,telling funny jokes too. As such, is his EQ level high?

If someone is the kind of person who has a comfortable relationship with his superiors and is humble with his subordinates, is his EQ level high?

It is easy for people to pity for those who are lower than themselves. It is easy to praise someone who is more raise than themselves., It is difficult for them to accept people who are equal to him and  who are not too far from themselves.

In fact, high interpersonal skill is the ability to treat other people with respect, and how much you can think about others.

He also has a strong belief, on the other side, he also respects the belief that is different from him. We accept that all people have their own values. He does not treat anyone as superior or inferior to anyone. How will he be in every matter, Why does he do this? They never look at others from their own point of view. If you have this kind of quality, you must have high interpersonal skill.

3. Flexibility & Adaptability

Smartness is how quickly you adapt to a new situation. It's also called how fast you can learn a subject. In today's era where today and tomorrow are not very different, this quality becomes important. If you can't change easily the way you know and  you've been doing, and if it's too difficult to settle into a new situation, you need to be able to fix it.

 

4. Self confident & open minded

Even though they are the same height, when one of them is in a low mood, he does not hesitate a little, very sensitive. When you told him that he was a short man , he replied very upset.

The other is not upset. Even before others said that, he was the first to say that he was not tall. Because he is not weak about his height. It is well known that appearance does not determine the quality of a person.

Some advertise themselves too much how clever they are. They want others to know that they are great, they want to be praised, they want to be respected. These are lack of self-confidence, showing his despair.

5. Stress management

Anyone who wants to be successful in life will inevitably face stress. The greater the responsibility, the more people who come follow and, the more the stress. I think I've seen people who have talent but can't handle that stress and fail to success. So, how much people  control stress? It is important to be able to give an outlet. They suicided for nothing. They feel great, wasting time and chasing after pleasure is a sign that they can not handle stress.

 6. General mood

Once upon a time, while an old man was sleeping, his grandchildren jokingly rubbed a very strong-smelling cream on his beard. When the old man woke up and smelled badly. “From where did this bad smile come? When I go to the kitchen, there is bad smell. When I go out to the front of the house, there is bad smell, It smells everywhere, “ he said. “ Is this smell everywhere?” In fact, he didn't notice the smell of the cream on his beard and thought it was the smell of the whole world.

In reality, I have seen such people. When I talk to them, I never find them wrong. The world is just unfair, they talk like it's full of bad people. They do not respect for the other person, They also lack of confidence. When you look at them normally, their faces are hard,  rarely smile, They can't be happy with life.

I want to tell you something for those people.

Deaf Helen's speech at a university was about happiness and being thankful for what she has in her life

Check it out with above these (6) points. If you think it's still weak, try to fix it.

To be more aware of your own feelings, Meditate to gain more control.

To respect others, read more books to learn to empathize especially fiction.

Don't hold onto anything. Things are always changing.

Don't complain about what you don't have yet. Appreciate what you have. Instead of being bitter about things you can't change, accepting them as they are will make your life happier.

Author - Dr. Phyo Thiha 

Translated  by A  Y